Bob, downsized from his last job, was frozen in a place called Apathy. Had been for months now. Knew he had to get moving, had to find a job, but - just couldn't seem to get his act together. Oh, he'd tried - a little. But his lack of immediate success just made him that much more apathetic.
Listless, almost indifferent, he dithered, wasting time on unrelated tasks. Found excuses not to move forward. Procrastinated - and hated himself for it. His family and friends tried to be supportive, but that only seemed to deepen his gloomy outlook. He was stuck.
Sound familiar? If so, read on - there are things you can do to quickly get unstuck!
Irrational fear, not the lack of ability or opportunity, is the usual cause of apathy during a job search. Sometimes we fear we are too old, too inexperienced, too long out of work, too - something. At other times, fearing rejection, we assume that no one will ever want us again. Or that if they do, we won't be able to hold the job. We fear it's a bad job market, the wrong career track, the wrong time of year, our health, - oh, lots and lots of things lead us to apathy!
Worrying about the past or future never helped anyone, but thoughtful, persistent action will. Others, many in worse straits than you and tired of "sawing sawdust," have found their way forward. So can you.
"Those who fail to plan," it's been said, "Plan to fail." But not every plan will work, so be prepared to rethink your plan.
Ask yourself such things as: Am I up to date on all the news in my industry? Do my resume and cover letters impress rather than bore? Do I know how to find job opportunities? Are my interviewing and negotiating skills as polished as they should be? Is my personal appearance acceptable? Correct or improve what you can.
If no one knows you exist, nothing happens. So identify and use ALL marketing channels appropriate to your goals: job ads, recruiters, resume distribution services, networking, information on interviewing, and many others. Once you have correctly gained exposure to the right hiring personnel, favorable things should start to happen.
Just getting started is often the hardest part of a job campaign. Therefore, begin with something easy - answering ads or contacting your references again. Then move on to those job campaign actions like networking that typically take more time and effort.
Most job hunters today have only a vague idea about how to go about marketing themselves. If you take the time to learn and apply effective job-hunting techniques, however, you will surely shorten the time it takes you to find a satisfying position.
If despite your best efforts you are still struggling, then consider seeking professional help from qualified and experienced career coaches or consultants. Such knowledgeable personnel can help pinpoint your problem areas as well as suggest paths of action that you may not have thought of.
Yes, job-hunting apathy is a real challenge. But if you have read this far, then you know how to lick it. [Bob did!] So! No more worrying, no more procrastinating, no more self-recriminations - just get that ball rolling and get back in the game!
10 Things to Never Say to a Car Dealer
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By MBA
The dealership experience can be extremely stressful, but it doesn't have to be. You could know everything there is to know about the cars you're considering, but that's only a fraction of the buying process. If you want that seductive new sedan at a good price, you're probably going to need to know what to say — and more importantly, what not to say.
"The educated consumer is the one who will drive away with the best deal and the best experience," says Rob Gentile, director of car-buying products at Consumer Reports.
1. Ready, Set, Go! "I'm ready to buy now."This is an admission of weakness and an invitation for the dealer to throw out a price that's slightly below the manufacturer's suggested retail price (MSRP) to see if you'll take the bait. It shows that you're too eager and willing to consider an offer, and it also gives salespeople the advantage by allowing them to talk you up as opposed to you talking them down. But by adding some very precise parameters, you'll sound confident and strong from the start.
"Don't let them know that you're ready to buy without being very particular. If you're ready, say that you'll buy, but only under these particular conditions," says Gentile.
2. Monthly Payment "I can afford this much per month.""Don't tell the dealer what you're willing to pay per month. This is the biggest mistake a shopper can make. Often the dealer will focus on a monthly payment scheme, insisting you are receiving a great deal, but at the end of the day you won't really know what you paid, advises Gentile.
If the dealer can get a number out of you, a common trick is to ask if you can squeeze out a slightly higher monthly payment, then raise the bottom-line price accordingly by hundreds or even thousands. Avoid this by insisting that you focus only on the purchase price. Walk away if the salesperson only wants to talk in monthly payments.
3. Trade-in "Yes, I have a trade-in."Don't tell salespeople you have a trade-in until a final transaction price is set. If you do and the deal hasn't been made yet, they may try to distract you with the "great" deal they're giving you on your trade-in as they skimp on the real deal. And if you catch that, they may try writing your trade-up for less.
"You'll see games being played — they'll play one off on the other," Gentile says. Once you've decided on a sale price, then you can see what they'll give you for your old car.
4. Cash-Only Please "I'm only buying the car with cash."Car dealers make a significant chunk of added profit when they sell you financing. If you don't at least leave the dealer with the possibility that he or she might sell you financing, you simply won't be getting the best deal. Bragg recommends saying something like "I haven't really thought that through yet. Maybe we'll see what you have after we agree on a price."
But be truly noncommittal with financing, even though it's a good idea to line up tentative financing with your lender before you go car shopping.
5. Still Debating "I'm not sure…which model do you think I need?"If you're this undecided, you may end up driving away in a vehicle you neither wanted nor needed. Do the research in advance, and make your first shopping trip a short one. Use this opportunity to gather information and take your spec vehicle for a short test drive. If your uncertainty is apparent, you may end up buying the model with the most add-on equipment, the highest sticker price and, of course, the most profit for the dealer. Before you go shopping, narrow your choices down to three or four vehicles that fit your needs.
6. My Dream Car "Oh, I've wanted one of these all my life."As soon as you've lost yourself in the dreamy vision of that gleaming convertible, the salesperson has you hooked, and your chances of getting a great deal are over. "Don't get caught heavy breathing," says Bragg. "Certainly don't admit to your spouse — with the salesman listening in the backseat — that you're in love with the car." Here's where you need to have a communication plan. Try to sound objective and rational. Point out some pros and cons and be observant and calm. Just don't say that you have to have this car.
7. What Everyone Wants "I'll take whatever the popular options are."Don't ever ask for the "popular options" especially on a luxury model that already comes loaded. It's an open invitation for overpriced dealer add-ons such as interior protectant, window etching or undercoating. They're all things you can come back for later. Instead, go through the equipment list at home after your first visit to the dealership and then decide exactly what you need.
8. Lowest You Can Go "What's the lowest price you can give me?"Most likely, this question won't be taken seriously, and you will be met with a predictable performance. The salesperson will wince, maybe talk to the manager, fiddle with numbers and eventually come back with a price that probably isn't a very good deal for you. But there may be so much apparent effort in this performance that you'll be pressured into settling for that final number. Don't. To avoid this, make an informed and reasonable low offer, then wait for a counteroffer. Don't be afraid of silence. Conversely, don't be surprised if there's even a little drama.
9. Doing The Math "Sure, I'll look at the numbers with you."Perhaps quite early in your visit, the salesperson will most likely make an offer to "just go look at the numbers." Dealers do this when they sense you're undecided, but they want to be in the position of control. Getting you in the office makes it harder for you to back out. Wait until you can call the shots of what you want at what price.
10. The Haggle Factor "I think you can do a lot better than that."Never scold or accuse the salespeople. Be polite. Compliment them, and show respect. You'll never get the best price if you talk down to them. At least for the moment, you want them to be your friends. Let the scene play out, but leave when the deal's not good enough by quietly suggesting that the competition across town might be more willing to work with you.
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Office Etiquette
By MBA
If you walk the corporate landscape, then you know having an office is a luxury. When I am in my office, I can talk as loudly as I want, and it doesn't bother anyone but when you are in a cubicle setting, anytime someone talks above normal levels, it is fair game for everyone to hear.
I've heard people talking about personal information with a doctor, talking to their stock broker, or making dinner plans. I heard more than I ever wanted to hear when I was in a cube.
While there are certain standards most offices follow - such as not eating lunch at your desk and not leaving your cell phone on during business hours - there is an appropriate office etiquette that can make working close to others easier for everyone involved.
Here are some tips:
Don't hold meetings in your cube. With a whole group of people talking in a small setting, it's easy to distract others.
Avoid noisy screensavers, or setting your e-mail to a line from your favorite song every time a message appears in your inbox.
Don't use a speaker phone: Double trouble - not one annoying voice, but two.
Watch the personal calls: Your neighbors don't want to hear about your weekend plans when they're trying to conduct business.
Avoid strong smells: Some people are allergic to colognes, perfumes and deodorants. If you must wear them, keep them light.
Cubicle decorations: Sure the family pictures are great, but beware of posting material that may have a personally offensive message.
Keep the radio low: Some radio shows can be borderline offensive. What may be funny to you, may not be to someone else.
If you walk the corporate landscape, then you know having an office is a luxury. When I am in my office, I can talk as loudly as I want, and it doesn't bother anyone but when you are in a cubicle setting, anytime someone talks above normal levels, it is fair game for everyone to hear.
I've heard people talking about personal information with a doctor, talking to their stock broker, or making dinner plans. I heard more than I ever wanted to hear when I was in a cube.
While there are certain standards most offices follow - such as not eating lunch at your desk and not leaving your cell phone on during business hours - there is an appropriate office etiquette that can make working close to others easier for everyone involved.
Here are some tips:
Don't hold meetings in your cube. With a whole group of people talking in a small setting, it's easy to distract others.
Avoid noisy screensavers, or setting your e-mail to a line from your favorite song every time a message appears in your inbox.
Don't use a speaker phone: Double trouble - not one annoying voice, but two.
Watch the personal calls: Your neighbors don't want to hear about your weekend plans when they're trying to conduct business.
Avoid strong smells: Some people are allergic to colognes, perfumes and deodorants. If you must wear them, keep them light.
Cubicle decorations: Sure the family pictures are great, but beware of posting material that may have a personally offensive message.
Keep the radio low: Some radio shows can be borderline offensive. What may be funny to you, may not be to someone else.
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